Hello Gals!
I am very torn right now.
My husband just got news last week that his job will pay for his ticket to go abroad to Europe where his parents and large extended family live.
We have not been there since two years ago when our twin boys were 8 months old.
Since then his parents have been visiting us every 6-8 months and live with us for at least 3 weeks while I host, clean, and essentially take care of everyone.
I've also been on this IVF roller coaster for ages.
I've had drama with the original IVF director doctor that treated me like dirt but he is the best around my local area for a unique responder like me (everything is good on paper but my body is not sensitive or flushes out the stimulants and I act like a slow responder/poor responder.)
In the meantime, I just got surgery about two weeks ago to ligate the remaining mild hydrosalphinx and the surgeon found no endometriosis at all and uterus looked great.
I am good to go!!!!!
I can start as soon as I get my period at the original IVF clinic (again they are a**holes but if this place is the best locally then I am swallowing the bitter pill to have a baby Thanks Jasminweb for your upbeat view on things).
But now..my husband wants to go abroad to the Netherlands for at least two weeks during the time I am supposed to be cycling. (I will be on the estrogen priming protocol...so it's theoretically possible.)
To add to the latest complication, my mother in law, is really a monster in law with green eyes that truly believes I "stole her baby" across the Atlantic Ocean and that he is only with me "because I give good sex" (her words).
She ambushes me when I am alone with emotionally charged questions, demands, and comments to make me feel inadequate, not enough, and excluded (she gives me bad vibes and the latest drama with her occurred while she was staying for a month in our house).
Don't know how to handle the situation.
Husband is going to make me feel bad for not going (each ticket is at least 1200 dollars right now for our family of four ,except his ticket since his job will cover that) and say "Why can't you wait for another IVF cycle?"
I am 34 and feel I have been WAITING too long to get this IVF going!
What would you do?
Any coping strategies?
Would you go during your IVF cycle????
Or would you postpone for at least another month?
Yikes!!!!!!
Sylvia