I'm a bit jaded about it to be honest.
Her dh is a lovely lovely guy. Funny, physically attractive and a no bad habits.
He has been self employed for 12 years and never hit the big time.
She has been able to stay at home with her 2 little girls.
They live in subsidised rented accommadation and it is a really lovely home.
My sister is very like my mother and both are fantasists.
My sister believes she deserves better than her dh has given her.
She has a diploma in IT (got pg on purpose the year she was to do her degree at 30)
But says that she wants to be home with her kids and therefore refuses to get a job to improve their cash flow. They are not in debt and have savings and have been on two foreign holidays this year. But she deserves "better"
I sense much of this is bench marking herself against me and my dh.
But the honest difference is that neither me nor my dh ever p1$$ed about.
We both worked hard in school, went straight to college, got jobs straight away and progressed straight in our respective careers. So we are better off than they are. They on the other hand p ricked about during school, got poor exam results, pricked about after school, went to college as adults and had kids straight away before their careers got a chance to evolve. So they have less than we do. This is my analysis that my sister perceives she "deserves" the same as me. I believe this is at the root of her dissatisfaction with her dh.
I am angry with her as I feel she is watching him struggle to support them and will not get off her ar $e and get a job. She could get a good well paid job....but no...she is afraid...she always feels she is bullied at work...and she is afraid of going back to an office environment. She uses this SAHM thing as an excuse. I would rather be a SAHM than a WM, but I'm full-time working now as that is what the economic climate and our circumstances demand.
If you've got as far as here, well done, cos I think I will loose the plot with her when I finally talk to her about it. It was one of my other sisters who told me.