Hi Ladies. I am hoping to receive some straight forward advice from my peers. I am 47 years old and will turn 48 in May 2009. My DH (41 years old) and I have been blessed via IFV with two children using donor eggs. We are completely in love with our ds who will turn 4 in January and our dd who is 2 and a half years old. We feel like the luckies parents on earth and for a long time have viewed our family as being completed.
So, you may be thinking what is the issue??? This is our dilemma. We have 5 FEs and given both our age, we strongly feel that we need to make a decision ASAP as to what to do with them. At the age of 47, I am in great physical and financial condition. Both my prior pregnancies went well. Of course, being in my fourties, I do not have the same energy level that I had in my twenties and thirties. So, when I think about having a third child and having to go through that babie phase again, I wonder to myself if I am up to it. My DH is great and will support any decision that I make.
This is the scoop, when I think about distroying the 5 FEs, I can't help but see my children's faces. I feel like I am killing their brother or sister.
When I think about donating the 5 FEs, I don't know if I could go through life knowing that my kids have a brother or sister somewhere out in the world. I also wonder if they would hold it against me when they found out.
With that said, I know that it is a personal decision but I would really love to hear your opinion.
Cynthia