This is difficult for me to post here, but I'm going to take a chance on the hope that someone else has been through what I am going through.
I am pregnant at 12w with what appear to be identical twins through IVF. I was initially very excited to be pregnant, but since finding out I have twins, I have been very, very unhappy and anxious. I am 41 and DH is 52 with a bad back. He will not be able to help me very much with twins since he can't lift much because of his back. I also never wanted twins. I put 2 back not expecting both to take, especially for my age. One may have taken and split. We are still not sure. I have a CVS scheduled for tomorrow. I don't know if it will tell me if they are identical or fraternal.
I have decided that I need to reduce this pregnancy to one. It has been very agonizing, and I have been trying to accept having two, but I just don't think DH and I can realistically raise two at one time. I didn't think it would be possible to reduce identical twins, but I need to find out if that is true or not.
In your response, if you know it is possible, please let me know. However, telling me that it is not possible will probably not help me at this point. I know I will need to travel out of state to do this as 2 to 1 reductions are not done in my state. If the twins are not identical, then they surely have a fused placenta as they are so close to each other. I have gotten conflicting information so far from the ultrasounds on whether they are identical or fraternal.
Thanks.