So, anyone with experience on the West Coast?
We are nearing the end of a very heartbreaking road, and now we are seriously considering donor embryos. I asked my RE about it, and she said she has literally never had any of her patients do this (and it isn't like she's new--she's been around for years). So she's going to ask around about clinics that might have donor embryos, but since she's never done it....
Has anyone here had donor embryos through a clinic in California? The only info the doctor's office had was with Bethany, based out of Tennessee. I'm not really comfortable going through the whole agency process--after so many failures (which I won't go into here) that's one of the reasons I just can't face adoption. There is no way I can handle someone rejecting me based on my beliefs, or lifestyle, or couch color, or whatever else I have read about in terms of home visits. (I know not all of them are like that, but most people end up with a baby after 35 viable embryos, too. Luck is not on my side in this.)
My career is in early childhood special ed, which means I worked with infants and toddlers with disabilities or developmental delays--that means my master's degree is in both typical and atypical development. I lived and breathed babies for years, and then this year I just had to stop working. It was just too heartbreaking to hold someone else's beautiful baby and know that I may never hold my own. The sheer injustice of infertility boggles my mind--I know for a fact I would be a wonderful, loving mother and my husband would be a fantastic father....
Anyway, not to ramble on too much. I'm sure all of us here are familiar with this sort of pain. I'm just trying to figure out which paths are still open to us, hoping I will never be in the position to have to accept a life without a child. Thanks in advance, anyone, for any advice you may have. And a tremendous thanks to those who are willing to donate their embryos to other couples who have been through infertility.