hello ladies, i am contemplating DE for the first time and trying to understand all of the different variables. i'm going to read through the threads this weekend but if anyone has any interesting resources, a book, link to a thread, website or such i'd appreciate it.
i'm struggling with this decision as it's just so foreign to me. first we couldnt get pregnant after a year of ttc, then we discovered we had severe MF so moved on to IVF ICSI, two cycles later we find my eggs are chromosomally abnormal and highly unlikely to result in a healthy baby...trying to pick myself up off the floor and focus on options that will lead us to success. 
i'm based in NYC, what do i need to know about DE? any thoughts would be appreciated. also, i'd love to hear your stories about making the DE decision and how you got comfortable with it, how you found a donor you want to use etc.
thanks so much and GL to all