Well I am at the cross roads- i have diminished ovarian reserve- low amh- last cycle was a bust. I have a 3 year old from my first ivf -- hubby and me. I am 34 and we have severe male factor infertility. I m/c twins in march at 9 weeks. This cycle was negative.
We are broke. It could be months to a year before we could feasibly do DE. I am considering embryo adoption. I have cycled with 2 clinics within the year, and the big clinic has a huge donor egg bank, and hence quite a few donor embryo's made from donor egg- so good quality blasts. She told me probably only a month wait.
My dh doesn't care- he is over the genetic thing- he wants to do what ever is going to get us success quickest. The thing is I am having a harder time with this than he is. I want another child, NOW, already, aren't I selfish!!
If i did donor egg with dh sperm I would be completely honest with everyone, and child. But for some reason I feel more secretive about embryo adoption. Worried b/c we won't have a genetic connection. Yes I know if I carry a child it will be 100% mine- but how will the child feel, being from a donor egg, and an unknown father. I am a little confused. I want to do donor embryo b/c I am ready to move one. But i also have some concerns as well.
Anyone else in this boat??
Jen