I'm nervous about posting this because I know religion can be a rough subject online but I am concerned about something and there is no way to ask locally.
I'm your basic garden variety Christian but my husband is Catholic and has been from birth. A lot of what we find online says IVF is against the rules for Catholics and we are afraid to be open with our priest and friends about what we are doing. It is not that we feel we are sinning. We believe that if there is a problem the church will come around on this issue once enough time has passed. I am afraid to ask because if what I am reading online is true I would rather just keep our secret to ourselves.
The problem is that I want to be open with my child from the begining. I think it is healthier emotionally for the child but at the same time if I tell the child it came from a donor embryo and then say "but you can't tell anyone" I would be sending some VERY mixed signals. I'm sure you can see the problem I am having. Changing faiths is not an option for us so I am left with the need to be less than honest if everything is the way it appears online.
Is anyone out there Catholic and open about your IVF. If so how has your priest and church community reacted? What approach did you take when presenting the issue to the priest?
Feedback would be much appreciated.
