Precisely when DH and I started IVF cycles (when I was 41 and now I'm 42), I met a woman who was the mother of twins. I had two unsuccessful IVF's and got the talk from my RE about whether I should consider stopping. I was devastated. This woman, lets call her Jane, then revealed to me that she, too had suffered from infertility for many, many years. She said that they tried countless IUI's. She also incorporated chinese medicine. After nearly 8 years of infertility she finally got pregnant with twin boys. She passed on to me some advice that her husband had told her - \"Never lose hope and don't ever give up.\"
Now I'm 42 on my 3rd IVF cycle and when I'm feeling down and started to sink into doubt and depression, I remember what my friend told me. I will do everything in my power to try to get pregnant - acupuncture, chinese medicine, yoga, IVF, and if it finally becomes cost-prohibitive, then natural IVF or IUI. If that, too, becomes cost prohibitive I will ask the financial counselors at our fertility clinic if they would be willing to help us with a loan or some kind of leniency. But I won't give up.
I've been trying for a short while. But my friend had been trying for 8 years. IUI after IUI she would get a BFN. But she didn't give up and finally she has the most beautiful two kids.
I just wanted to pass on encouragement and hope to everyone - that dream is not so far out of our reach maybe. Hang in there and keep your hope and faith alive.