I'm 10 weeks along with identicals. I am grateful for this pregnancy. I am lucky lucky lucky.
But the prospect of twins is really really stressing me out. This pregnancy resulted from an FET -- my second this time around. Each time, we transferred one blastocyst. We knew that transferring just one would reduce our chances of success, but we did not want to risk twins. Indeed, according to my clinic, there is a 1-2 percent chance of a blastocyst splitting into twins in a FET cycle.
We have two small children already -- age 4 (fresh cycle) and age 2-1/2 (FET).
I am so worried about managing twins (in the short term and the long term). Worried about having less time and energy for my 4 and 2-year olds, the impact on our financial picture -- pretty much everything.
Am I going to have anything left for my older children? What about for myself?
What kind of childcare help should I get, especially in the beginning?
I have been struggling with finding someone to reach out to -- any suggestions welcome. There's a local \"moms of multiples\" club in my area, but it's $40 to join. Is it worth it?