tianarahagalala on "how did you handle notifying "christmas card friends" about your loss?"

Now that I'm past my due date, I've gotten concerned about the people who knew we were expecting, but I'm not in contact with them regularly, so they don't know about our loss. I was at 15 weeks right before Christmas, and we knew we were having a boy and it seemed like it was "safe" to make our announcement. So, I put a note in cards saying "we are excited to be expecting a baby boy in June". Now it's haunting me. If I had received a card like that from a friend, I would be expecting to get a baby announcement as well. I feel like it's an open issue that I need to close.
Should I send a handwritten note? Is an email too impersonal for people who I only correspond with by christmas cards? I just don't want to wait until December and then have to stir things up again by sending an "oh, by the way, our baby died" note in their cards.