This may seem like a very weird post. However, I just found out I am pregnant through DE. We have told literally no one that we used DE as we are still undecided about how much and when we will tell our kids about it. And - if we do decide to tell them we think they should be the first to know.
Because we moved 2 years ago, I need a new OB/GYN and we are considering NOT telling the OB/GYN about DE. We know several physicians (non-OB GYNs) at the nearest and most convenient hospital and the hospital is 100% automated with all their charting. My fear is that I see an OB/GYN who I share the DE info with, and then all of a sudden my neighbors find out b/c their husbands/doctors at some point glance into my chart (possibly innocently, like when I am in the hospital delivering). Believe me - I know all of the legalities around how this shouldn't happen, but let's just say I know stuff about people in my town b/c doctors have told their wives and they tell someone and so on.
So what are the risks of not telling a new OB/GYN about DE? Our donor was so young (20) that I am not concerned about doing the testing for downs which is the only time I think that info is relevant. Any ideas or thoughts on how else this could be troublesome?
Thanks for your input and understanding.