This is not something that I'm dwelling on everyday, I'm not walking around shooting dirty looks at family or refusing to associate with them, things are pretty much normal, but I still have some underlying resentment about IF and what we went through and the lack of support that we got. I don't know how to get over this. We went through 4-5 years of failed treatments (including about 8 IUI cycles and 7 IVF cycles) and several m/c's before finally having DD on IVF 7 and then DS was a surprise shortly thereafter. People in our lives just did not get it, we got the "kids aren't everything get over it" or "why don't you just adopt" type of statements, children shoved in our faces, arguments with some of the in laws who didn't think we were doting enough as aunts and uncles to their babies, etc. Now it is over, and I am FINE with people getting pg and babies, and pg talk, and what have you. I DON'T want more kids! But whenever one of these unsupportive people gets pg or has more kids I can't stand it! I'm not happy for them, or at least as happy as I should be. Unfortunately, these are close relatives and they are there for good. If they had shown an ounce of compassion I'm sure I would feel differently, it just burns my butt that they did not care at all about what we were going through, and now it's so easy for them, they decide to get pg, it happens in 2 seconds, they have normal easy pregnancies, beautiful, healthy babies, etc. etc. etc. Anyone else feel this way? It's not something you can just talk through with them. I'm still angry at them and there's nothing that can be done because they will never in a million years get it. We have tried to explain to some of them in the past what it was like, and it was like talking to a brick wall, and they didn't hear anything we had to say. So we mostly just suffered in silence while they went on for 5 years with their happy little lives. Ugh, not really looking for "answers", just need to vent. SIL is about to have a baby and I'm not looking forward to it at all. I'm sure I will love their child as I get to know him/her but hate the whole newborn/baby thing. And then Dh's cousin just had a baby a few days ago and for the last month it has been several pg updates every day, now it's baby updates. So sick of it!
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