I'm starting to navigate the DE process (at almost 42 and after many losses, I just don't think I can take it anymore with my OE) and I have some questions about how people made decisions about choosing their egg donor, based on the level of anonymity.
I'm single, so I'm already using donor sperm. I've always used a sperm donor who was willing to be known - i.e. my child at age 18 could get the donor's contact information if s/he wanted it. I felt it was important to leave that option open for my child and I paid a little more for it (anonymous donors generally are cheaper per vial than willing to be known donors).
Now I'm starting to think about the donor egg part. Correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems like that level of openness is only available if you go through an agency. In house donor pools seem to be exclusively anonymous (but again, I may be wrong here). I'm not as concerned about getting huge amounts of information about the donor - I'd be happy with baby pictures only (or no pictures at all) and the simplicity of choosing an in house donor appeals to me. But I do feel like choosing an anonymous egg donor could have big ramifications for my child down the road - if they want to seek out their genetic heritage, etc.
I guess the question for myself is how much more am I willing to pay to keep that door open? Am I right in thinking that an agency is the only way to go with this?
What have other people's experiences been with this issue?