Hi all,
It\'s been 2 weeks since my m/c. I thought I was doing OK, but yesterday my SIL told DH she is pg. She is due a few weeks after I would have been. She knows nothing about the m/c and we're not going to tell her, but it was really hard to congratulate her and act normal and happy for her. I am happy for her but it made me more sad for myself, especially knowing I will be thinking at every milestone that it could have been us too. We're going to see them and MIL/FIL for Thanksgiving and I'm kind of dreading it. We were all at a family wedding 2 weeks ago, both pg (me a few weeks further along) but not telling anyone. She was telling me how she wasn't feeling well on the plane home and rushed to get an u/s when she returned, and everything looked great. All I could think of was that was the same day I had my m/c. DH didn't really get it, he was saying today that we can get them baby stuff for Christmas and I said, I'm not ready to deal with buying them baby stuff.
This is actually the second pg announcement since the m/c, but the first (from my sister) turned out to be a false alarm based on a late period. I felt so guilty for thinking it, but my first thought when I heard it was a false alarm was relief that I wouldn't have to deal with a pg close to me. An awful thought because she really wants this and I want her to be happy.
Does anyone have any suggestions for dealing with this. I thought I was coming to terms with the m/c but felt punched in the gut by this. Hopefully in time I can just be happy for SIL but right now I'm dreading Thanksgiving because I can tell now, it is just too soon not to feel pain over it.
Thanks-
antonia_p