Hello ladies ... I am new here. Just got my first BFN on Monday after our first IVF/ICSI cycle. I'm 35, DH is 34. We were diagnosed with MF infertility and we've been trying for almost 4 years and have gone through a bunch of IUIs, some medicated and some not. This was our first IVF cycle. We did IVF with ICSI, 5 day transfer.
Today we went for our BFN follow-up today and our doc said that although we were initially diagnosed with MF infertility the ICSI would have taken care of that. My Inhibin B was normal, but borderline low, so now it appears that after this cycle (my first) he believes my egg quality is an issue too. He says I "look great on paper" but when the cycle transpired, he wasn't happy with my results. I stimmed like a pro and had almost 15 lovely follies, from which they got 8 eggs. Only one egg was excellent, 4 were okay/good, and 3 were only fair. He feels at my age I should have had 5 or 6 really excellent eggs. All fertilized thru the ICSI, but we had slow growth, arresting and restarting (indicating abnormal), and full arrest. By day 5 we had none to freeze and one nice looking blastocyst (which had been that excellent egg) and one that had just turned into a blast that morning. So we wound up transferring two embies.
He\'s recommending genetic testing if we go again ... which is about another $5K on top of the IVF and ICSI. <insert BIIIIIIIG sigh here.> Had been wishing for him to just say "it was a fluke that it didn't work ... let's go again and hope for a different outcome." At his request I'm sitting out a month to let my body rest.
This stinks ... I feel like a whiner for complaining after my first IVF cycle when so many women on here have been dealing with this for soooo much longer. I think I'm less upset about the BFN than I am about this new news ... wondering if I should be less hopeful for a positive outcome. I won't complain too much. Just here to share and try to lift my burden a bit by getting it off my chest.
I wish I knew the answer to "when is enough, enough?" ... when insurance isn't paying for anything, that is a tough one. Were money no object, I think I would do this until it worked, but now ... with what the doctor said today I keep wondering if moving forward means we are throwing money at an unattainable goal. Surely when the chances are super-slim a good RE tells you to throw in the towel, right?
I'm just wondering if MF and poor egg quality bode really poorly for any hope of a BFP.
Much love ... keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers. I'm sorry each of you are on this thread/board and hope that your BFP is coming soon!